reality bites

The R word

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One of the first words I heard after my daughter was born were “Wow! A redhead, look at all that red curly hair!” It was indeed a remarkable head of hair. Once it was washed and dried, her hair wafted from her tiny head like bright red plumes of smoke….

Gender Disappointment

Gender disappointment? Really?

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I had never even heard the term ‘gender disappointment’ until I was pregnant with my third son. I knew I was having another boy. But no one else did. Not even my husband. He knew that I knew what we were having, but he didn’t want to know. He’s got…

How to tell if you’re a good parent

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Ok, I’m sorry I tricked you into clicking that headline. I don’t really have an answer. Not a definitive one, at least. I used to think that it all boiled down to the kind of adult your child became. If they were kind, loving, compassionate and contributed to making the…

The school holidays that broke me

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Because school holidays are all about having fancy drinks at the beach. Says no mother ever. I enjoy the school holidays, I really do. I enjoy my life not revolving around 9am to 3pm. I awoke on the first day of school hols feeling refreshed and excited at all of…

Where are all the female CEOs?

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“Why are there hardly any female CEOs?” is the bewildered cry. “What on earth are we doing wrong? Do we need more mentors? Do we need more management quotas? Do we need gender-biased recruitment processes?” No. No we don’t. If you ask me, these things are missing the heart of the…

Parenting your teenage baby

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My teenage son wasn’t always a teenager, surprisingly enough. When he was born he was tiny, a mop of dark brown hair and the largest pair of big blue eyes I had ever seen on an infant. When he wasn’t a teenager, he would do things like hide dog chews…

What are you so afraid of?

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I have a whole long history that I won’t share in detail because I suspect some of you may already know it and maybe have even lived it too. It is about self-limiting behaviour and lack of self-esteem and comparison and jealousy and discontent. Those things we all have, but…