It is the new year and with it comes the litany of New Year’s resolutions very few people end up keeping. I know. I am one of them.
But with the new year also comes wisdom and here at Her Collective we hope to share some of these with our readers.
You are enough
Aren’t you tired of the struggle to be something else? These days, it seems that we are bombarded with unachievable things by the media. Not only should you be the best mother, you should also be the best cook, best lover, best organiser and should fit in a size six dress. The pressure is ridiculous.
No one can be good at everything and we shouldn’t force this notion upon ourselves. No wonder people get depressed! This year, make sure you tell yourself regularly that you are enough. Because that is true. There is no one on Earth like you. What was that saying? “Be yourself because everyone else is taken.”
Body bashing has no point
Fat, short, thin, tall, round, apple shaped, pear shaped, granola shaped – whatever category you place yourself in, that’s fine. It’s okay as long as we don’t start throwing shit at each other for being the shape we are. We are all in the same boat.
According to the Dove Global Beauty and Confidence Report, women’s confidence in their bodies is on a steady decline. It is a global issue. And we are all thinking the same thing too. The report said that women (69%) and girls (65%) cite the “increasing pressures from advertising and media to reach an unrealistic standard of beauty as a key force in driving appearance anxiety”.
This doesn’t surprise us at all. Have you seen that video showing how many pages in woman’s magazine actually contains real content instead of advertisements containing unrealistic women’s bodies? Look within yourself and those who truly care for you, not the media, to know that you are awesome.
That’s why here at Her Collective we celebrate triumphs like Rachael’s who did a triathlon at 40. We share stories of different types of women because we are different. But we are fantastic.
Their success is not your failure
Why do people love schadenfreuding? A smirk, an eyebrow raised, a cutting remark – we all have something to say when we see someone else achieving something we wish we could. Believe you me, I am guilty of the same thing. But the reality is that other people’s success has nothing to do with your failure – unless they literally do, but that’s another story.
If they are losing weight drinking shakes twice a day doesn’t mean you can’t do the same thing doing something else. If they finished a marathon after a year of training, doesn’t mean you can’t achieve the same goal. If they finished that novel they’ve been planning to write, doesn’t mean you can’t finish your own work-in-progress. Instead of pulling others down, we need to celebrate it and figure out for ourselves what’s blocking us from achieving the same thing. Pull yourself up, not pull others down.
If we want to see positive changes outside, we need to start with ourselves.
Have a good year everyone!